Couples Therapy
Relationships are living organisms. They need to be fed, nourished and challenged in order to grow and stay healthy.
In the initial stages of a relationship, communication comes easy as we are swept up in the excitement of a new connection. We have the tendency to wear blinders, to look past present faults, and experience a new bond without the weight of a shared and complex history.
Then with little notice at first, life happens. Over time we begin to face new and complicated challenges, have bigger fights, raise children, deal (or not) with relatives, experience a waning sex life, and grow in different directions at different times. Relationships naturally undergo strain; it’s expected. But when this strain is left unattended for too long, the relationship can wither and disconnection and pain settle in. That’s where couples therapy can help.
There are many reasons why couples choose to start this journey. One or both partners may experience a pattern of feeling hurt or misunderstood and they desire to find a way out of these unproductive and painful cycles. Others are about to get married, or have been married for a long time and want to decrease the number of fights and clarify relationship boundaries. And there are also couples who know it’s time to move on, and want help to exit a relationship gracefully, “consciously uncoupling,” for their own peace of mind, and perhaps for their children as well. Couples who seek therapy can heal, prevent further injury, and decrease inevitable pain.
In relationships, much gets left unsaid. This is why it’s helpful to have an unbiased, educated observer around to navigate these many challenging and unspoken terrains. Couples Therapy is a space to untangle.
Couples that I work with seek therapy to:
- Communicate honestly
- Work through tension and disagreement
- Spend less time in conflict
- Reduce arguments
- Have a healthier relationship to anger
- Communicate needs
- Discuss Fertility Stress
- Co-parent better
- Blend two families
- Have better sex
- Discuss infidelity or trauma
- Divorce without bitterness
- Deepen connection and love
How to Begin:
Our first meeting together will be an intake session that will last an hour and a half with both partners. I will gather a sense of the issues that you have been working on, your past attempts to resolve these issues, the goals that you would like to achieve during the course of therapy, and the relationship cycles that get you stuck. Thereafter I will have an individual session with each partner to learn about family and relationship histories. We will then meet together again and continue the couples work, focusing on key issues. For contact details, click here. Offices are located in NYC and in Westchester, NY.
